Getting Over It
Do Not Beat Yourself Up

Getting over it, your failed marriage, is the key to the rest of your life.

The last week has been really tough for me. I had to spend time with my ex-wife with some things related to our children. There was time in the car, time waiting at the dentists office and time on the phone. She was very difficult to get along with during all this time.

In fact I have felt run down and sick from the stress of it all.

What does this have to do with getting over it?

I have been thinking that I must have really been stupid, needy and desperate to ever have loved her and to have stayed with her as long as I did.

So that has had me depressed all week.

Now, just today I dropped my kids off back at her house and I saw it. I saw why I loved her so much and wanted to do so much for her.

I saw the girl I loved with all my being for so long and found so hard to leave even when she was not right for me.

What I saw was the way she hugged our son when he was walking back into the house. She hugged him and told him she loved him and he said he loved her.

It was so beautiful it brings tears to my eyes right now because now I realize why I loved her, why I married her, why I stayed with her so long and why I put up with her now.

The reason is that she can be the nicest, sweetest, most generous, most beautiful person in the world.

I was not a stupid, desperate, needy man who settled for the first woman who loved me.

I was just a man in love with a wonderful woman who just loved the heck out of me.

Telling you this just makes me feel 100% percent better.

This is the way you have to think when getting over it, your failed marriage.

Think about the wonderful times you had. Enjoy your beautiful children you have together and realize that just because your marriage fell apart for whatever reason, you deserve a good life, your spouse deserves a good life and you just made a mistake and now are just working your way through it.

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