Home Organizer Idea # 1
Get Rid of Stuff

Trying to be a home organizer is an impossible task if you have too much stuff. The stuff gets in the way of good relationships with people and with trying to have an easier stress-free life.

If you are continually struggling with excess belongings, how do you have time and energy to be with someone, enjoy them and have some free time to do enjoyable things?

I left my wife over two years ago. Her stuff was not the main reason I left, but it did not help, at all.

Since I wanted to be a home organizer and live in a clutter free and stress-free way and she did not, we continually clashed over this.

In the end, neither of us won. I left her and have struggled financially and do not get to see my kids that much. She is without a great husband and has to struggle financially too. The stuff is still there. I guess you could say that the only one who won was the stuff.

The girl I fell head over heels in love with and would do anything for ended up being more in love with the stuff than with me. You might say I am a little bitter. Wiser, in the ways of the world and women, but bitter nonetheless. This is just one more hurt in a long line of hurts in the interactions with my wife and the reasons I had to leave.

You may criticize me and say that I should have told her how I felt about all of her stuff. I should have just thrown out her stuff. I should have just learned to live with it.

But you are wrong.

I did tell her how I felt about the stuff. It was no secret.

I did throw things out of hers early in our marriage. I wanted to get clutter free and have less stuff. I was getting into being a home organizer and thought she would be too.

Wrong.

She got extremely enraged over this and did not trust me to never throw anything of hers out. She would actually check the garbage continually to see if I threw anything of hers out. I definitely learned not to throw anything of hers out from this incident. It was traumatic to me to see such rage from her and I did not want to see it again.

I more or less learned to live with her stuff for years until I could no longer bear how she was to me and I left.

The lure of the stuff was so strong in her, it seems like it overwhelmed her. It must have given her feelings I could not.

Why, if she loved me wouldn't she be able to want to please me a little bit?

Why couldn't she see how much better a clutter free life is? The evidence was all around how much of a better life other people had who kept less stuff. It just does not make sense.

I cannot see the attraction to the stuff. I have lived so long without it. I hate the stuff. I am continually tossing it out. It bogs me down. It slows me down. It gets in my way. I cannot stand to stumble over it or deal with it in any way.

I don't find it funny to deal with it. I find it twisted and sick.

Stuff thinks it is more important than people.

I let the stuff know that I am the home organizer and it isn't in charge.

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