How To Organize
Friends

How to organize relationships with friends? Isn't it better to not think of organizing with your friends? I don't think so.

It is always better to be a low maintenance friend. I think thefollowing examples show what I mean:

1. Being late.

2. Being too early.

3. Calling too much.

4. Calling too little.

5. Not thanking them.

6. Not helping out.

7. Making demands.

8. Assuming the friendship will always stay the same.

9. Not adding value to the relationship.

10. Feeling like you have to keep up. For example you may have friends who make a lot more money than you do. Some people will feel like when they see those richer friends then they will have to spend money like they do. I don't.

If someone has more than you do, they just do. You don't have to keep up.

When I left my wife and throughout the divorce and even now after wards, I don't have a lot of excess cash.

Most of my money goes to her.

I choose not to get angry about it. After all, she does have the kids most of the time and they need to be taken care of.

My three best friends are in a much different financial place now.

One has never been married and has been doing great since we graduated from college.

The other two have been divorced for a lot of years and have been doing well lately. They struggled at first after their divorces also.

My point is that I don't feel the need to keep up. I also have put my pride behind me and have accepted their help when it comes to fun. I will gladly accept a free round of golf,a meal, a few drinks and a hotel room.

Why should I feel bad about this? Someday I will repay the favor.

I would help a friend in need if I could.

If you feel bad about doing worse financially than your friends you do have a few options.

You could avoid those friends until you are doing better. But how do you maintain a friendship by never being together?

You could make friends with people who have less money. I would say to make friends with whomever you want, money or no money. But I really want to maintain the friends I have.

You can live like a hermit and never do anything or see anyone. This seems pretty extreme but people do it all the time.

I try to be my fun loving self, not be a drag and use my how to organize ideas to know what is going on, help with the planning and organizing and not be a burden to anyone.

What I try to do is be a low maintenance friend and to add value in some way and one way to do that is using these how to organize tips.

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